A baby who can self-soothe will fall asleep on their own and play calmly without your intervention. Itâs a process, and a skill, that will help throughout their lives. Follow these tips to get started.
Itâs naptime â thank goodness. But your baby isnât having it. They cry. They fuss. So, you bounce them, rock them or even drive around town until they fall asleep.
Itâs the question on the top of your mind (and youâre not alone): When â and how â will my baby learn to self-soothe and calm down without so much effort?
Pediatrician Matthew Badgett, MD, answers this important question, and shares ways to help your baby learn to self-soothe.
Why is self-soothing important?
When your baby self-soothes, they can calm down on their own and they:
Fall asleep without your help.
Fall back asleep if they wake up in the middle of a nap or during the night.
Sit or play calmly by themselves.
But self-soothing isnât just for little ones. Itâs an important skill throughout your life. Whether you realize it or not, you use your own self-soothing methods to feel better when youâre stressed or anxious.
âSelf-soothing is a way of regulating your emotions,â Dr. Badgett explains. âBabies might suck their thumb or hold a stuffed animal. Adults might listen to music, take a walk or do yoga. The type of self-soothing you use changes throughout your life, but itâs a key part of your emotional health.â
When can my baby learn to self-soothe?
Every exhausted parent wants to know: When will my baby lie in their crib and drift off to sleep without my help? Or When can I put them in their bouncy seat for five minutes without screams of protest?
âIn general, donât try to teach your baby to self-soothe before they are 3 months old,â advises Dr. Badgett. âNewborns need you to help soothe them because they donât have the ability to control their emotions. Learning emotional control is a process that takes years, so donât expect too much from an infant or toddler.â
And self-soothing is a gradual process â not a switch you can flip. âSelf-soothing is really co-soothing because the parent is still involved,â says Dr. Badgett. âYour baby plays a more active role in soothing, but you set them up for success. You figure out how your baby can calm down with less of your help.â
Self-soothing tips and techniques
If your baby is past the newborn stage but still cries relentlessly when you put them down, there is hope. These tips can help your baby gain self-soothing skills:
1. Meet your babyâs needs first
Before you assume that your baby is just cranky, review their list of needs. Your baby wonât be able to self-soothe if:
Their diaper is wet or soiled.
Their clothing is too hot or too cold for the environment.
There are too many distractions in the room, like a noisy TV or other children.
After youâve ruled out those issues, move on to the next steps.
2. Set a schedule
Babies love routine. Try to put your baby to bed at the same time every day. Donât skip naps or keep your baby up late. A schedule keeps them from becoming overtired â thatâs when any hope of self-soothing goes out the window.
âIf your baby goes to bed at the same times each day, their body clock will get used to it,â Dr. Badgett notes. âThen, they will start to feel sleepy right at naptime or bedtime. Babies that are drowsy, but not exhausted, are better able to fall asleep on their own.â
3. Use white noise
The sound of a fan or a white noise machine can be music to your babyâs ears. âMany babies prefer a steady sound over a perfectly quiet room,â Dr. Badgett says. âIt helps drown out other sounds that could startle them, and it has a calming effect.â
Turn on the white noise machine when itâs bedtime. This can serve as a cue for your baby to learn when itâs time for dreamland.
4. Stay close without picking them up
After you place your baby in their crib or seat, donât leave right away.
âIf you give your baby some attention without holding them, they learn that being put down isnât a bad thing,â Dr. Badgett explains. âTalk to them, or gently put your hand on their belly. After a few minutes, calmly leave the room.â
5. Try a pacifier
Pacifiers are a useful tool for babies under the age of 1. But use caution. It can be hard to take the paci away from a baby who canât calm down without it.
âPacifiers help young babies learn to self-soothe before they learn other techniques,â Dr. Badgett says. âBut limit pacifier use to naptime and bedtime. Use them with other methods, like white noise and a consistent routine. That way, your baby wonât learn to rely on the pacifier alone.â
6. Wean them off feeding to sleep
Itâs normal for young babies to fall asleep at the bottle or breast. But as your baby grows, they need to learn other ways to drift off.
âDonât feed your older baby right at naptime with the sole purpose of getting them to sleep,â Dr. Badgett suggests. âThey might end up overeating or relying on the nipple even when theyâre already full.â
You can avoid the feed-to-sleep method if you:
Stop feeding if you see your baby getting sleepy.
Gently burp your baby to wake them up a little if they fell asleep feeding. Then, use the other self-soothing techniques to help them calm back down.
With a little persistence, perseverance and patience on your end, your little one could be self-soothing to sleep in no time.
We all want to protect our kids whether it be from falls, bumps and bruises â or avoidable infections and diseases. To help your child avoid illness, itâs important to encourage good habits and take steps to boost their immune system from an early age.
âMost of what makes a childâs immune system strong is common sense,â says pediatrician Adriane Lioudis, MD. If you keep these five tips in mind, youâll stack the deck in your childâs favor for a healthier life.
1. For newborns, consider breastfeeding
While itâs a very personal decision (that isnât always possible), if you are able to exclusively breastfeed your child for at least six months, it may have benefits. Some research shows that breastfeeding your child might possibly reduce allergies, Dr. Lioudis says.
2. Promote regular hand washing
Eighty percent of infections are spread by touch. Teach your little one to take the time to wash their hands after sneezing, coughing and going to the bathroom. Washing hands with warm water and soap for at least 20 seconds can remove bacteria and viruses and can reduce the chance of lung infections by up to 45%.
âGet the flu shot for your child yearly, as well,â Dr. Lioudis says. This is particularly important for children with asthma and other chronic health conditions.
Also, if your family will be traveling internationally, itâs important to seek advice from your childâs healthcare provider about any needed vaccinations.
4. Make sleep a priority
To maximize immunity, children must get enough sleep.
Babies between 0 and 3 months need 14 to 17 hours of sleep. Those between 4 and 12 months need 12 to 16 hours of sleep.
Children between the ages of 1 and 2 need between 11 and 14 hours.
Kids between the ages of 3 and 5 should get from10 to 13 hours.
Children ages 6 to 12 should get between 9 and 12 hours.
Teens between the ages of 13 to 18 need 8 to 10 hours.
Not getting enough sleep limits the bodyâs ability to produce proteins called cytokines that help fight infection and reduce inflammation.
5. Encourage a healthy diet
A healthy diet is also important for your childâs immune system.
Dr. Lioudis recommends encouraging your child to âeat the rainbowâ when it comes to fruits and vegetables. A good selection of whole grains should be part of their diet as well. Keep processed foods to a minimum. Proper food choices can help ensure that your child gets enough vitamins â such as vitamin A and E. These vitamins are needed to maintain good health and a strong immune system.
You canât avoid all illness, but some kids need extra protection
âEven if you follow these tips, your child might still get between seven and 11 colds each year,â says Dr. Lioudis. She adds that you can expect each one to last up to two weeks.
Also, keep in mind that some things billed as common âremediesâ arenât effective in boosting immunity. For example, thereâs no definitive proof that large amounts of vitamin C or echinacea help prevent colds or shorten them, she says.
However, if your child has a compromised immune system, work closely with your pediatrician to find ways to improve his or her immunity. Each child needs a personalized approach because their individual immune system varies, Dr. Lioudis says.
âThereâs generally a different protocol with immunocompromised children. There are some vaccines we have to add in on top of what most children have, but itâs something that we must determine on a case-by-case basis.
We all want to protect our kids whether it be from falls, bumps and bruises â or avoidable infections and diseases. To help your child avoid illness, itâs important to encourage good habits and take steps to boost their immune system from an early age.
âMost of what makes a childâs immune system strong is common sense,â says pediatrician Adriane Lioudis, MD. If you keep these five tips in mind, youâll stack the deck in your childâs favor for a healthier life.
1. For newborns, consider breastfeeding
While itâs a very personal decision (that isnât always possible), if you are able to exclusively breastfeed your child for at least six months, it may have benefits. Some research shows that breastfeeding your child might possibly reduce allergies, Dr. Lioudis says.
2. Promote regular hand washing
Eighty percent of infections are spread by touch. Teach your little one to take the time to wash their hands after sneezing, coughing and going to the bathroom. Washing hands with warm water and soap for at least 20 seconds can remove bacteria and viruses and can reduce the chance of lung infections by up to 45%.
âGet the flu shot for your child yearly, as well,â Dr. Lioudis says. This is particularly important for children with asthma and other chronic health conditions.
Also, if your family will be traveling internationally, itâs important to seek advice from your childâs healthcare provider about any needed vaccinations.
4. Make sleep a priority
To maximize immunity, children must get enough sleep.
Babies between 0 and 3 months need 14 to 17 hours of sleep. Those between 4 and 12 months need 12 to 16 hours of sleep.
Children between the ages of 1 and 2 need between 11 and 14 hours.
Kids between the ages of 3 and 5 should get from10 to 13 hours.
Children ages 6 to 12 should get between 9 and 12 hours.
Teens between the ages of 13 to 18 need 8 to 10 hours.
Not getting enough sleep limits the bodyâs ability to produce proteins called cytokines that help fight infection and reduce inflammation.
5. Encourage a healthy diet
A healthy diet is also important for your childâs immune system.
Dr. Lioudis recommends encouraging your child to âeat the rainbowâ when it comes to fruits and vegetables. A good selection of whole grains should be part of their diet as well. Keep processed foods to a minimum. Proper food choices can help ensure that your child gets enough vitamins â such as vitamin A and E. These vitamins are needed to maintain good health and a strong immune system.
You canât avoid all illness, but some kids need extra protection
âEven if you follow these tips, your child might still get between seven and 11 colds each year,â says Dr. Lioudis. She adds that you can expect each one to last up to two weeks.
Also, keep in mind that some things billed as common âremediesâ arenât effective in boosting immunity. For example, thereâs no definitive proof that large amounts of vitamin C or echinacea help prevent colds or shorten them, she says.
However, if your child has a compromised immune system, work closely with your pediatrician to find ways to improve his or her immunity. Each child needs a personalized approach because their individual immune system varies, Dr. Lioudis says.
âThereâs generally a different protocol with immunocompromised children. There are some vaccines we have to add in on top of what most children have, but itâs something that we must determine on a case-by-case basis.
We all want to protect our kids whether it be from falls, bumps and bruises â or avoidable infections and diseases. To help your child avoid illness, itâs important to encourage good habits and take steps to boost their immune system from an early age.
âMost of what makes a childâs immune system strong is common sense,â says pediatrician Adriane Lioudis, MD. If you keep these five tips in mind, youâll stack the deck in your childâs favor for a healthier life.
1. For newborns, consider breastfeeding
While itâs a very personal decision (that isnât always possible), if you are able to exclusively breastfeed your child for at least six months, it may have benefits. Some research shows that breastfeeding your child might possibly reduce allergies, Dr. Lioudis says.
2. Promote regular hand washing
Eighty percent of infections are spread by touch. Teach your little one to take the time to wash their hands after sneezing, coughing and going to the bathroom. Washing hands with warm water and soap for at least 20 seconds can remove bacteria and viruses and can reduce the chance of lung infections by up to 45%.
âGet the flu shot for your child yearly, as well,â Dr. Lioudis says. This is particularly important for children with asthma and other chronic health conditions.
Also, if your family will be traveling internationally, itâs important to seek advice from your childâs healthcare provider about any needed vaccinations.
4. Make sleep a priority
To maximize immunity, children must get enough sleep.
Babies between 0 and 3 months need 14 to 17 hours of sleep. Those between 4 and 12 months need 12 to 16 hours of sleep.
Children between the ages of 1 and 2 need between 11 and 14 hours.
Kids between the ages of 3 and 5 should get from10 to 13 hours.
Children ages 6 to 12 should get between 9 and 12 hours.
Teens between the ages of 13 to 18 need 8 to 10 hours.
Not getting enough sleep limits the bodyâs ability to produce proteins called cytokines that help fight infection and reduce inflammation.
5. Encourage a healthy diet
A healthy diet is also important for your childâs immune system.
Dr. Lioudis recommends encouraging your child to âeat the rainbowâ when it comes to fruits and vegetables. A good selection of whole grains should be part of their diet as well. Keep processed foods to a minimum. Proper food choices can help ensure that your child gets enough vitamins â such as vitamin A and E. These vitamins are needed to maintain good health and a strong immune system.
You canât avoid all illness, but some kids need extra protection
âEven if you follow these tips, your child might still get between seven and 11 colds each year,â says Dr. Lioudis. She adds that you can expect each one to last up to two weeks.
Also, keep in mind that some things billed as common âremediesâ arenât effective in boosting immunity. For example, thereâs no definitive proof that large amounts of vitamin C or echinacea help prevent colds or shorten them, she says.
However, if your child has a compromised immune system, work closely with your pediatrician to find ways to improve his or her immunity. Each child needs a personalized approach because their individual immune system varies, Dr. Lioudis says.
âThereâs generally a different protocol with immunocompromised children. There are some vaccines we have to add in on top of what most children have, but itâs something that we must determine on a case-by-case basis.
We all want to protect our kids whether it be from falls, bumps and bruises â or avoidable infections and diseases. To help your child avoid illness, itâs important to encourage good habits and take steps to boost their immune system from an early age.
âMost of what makes a childâs immune system strong is common sense,â says pediatrician Adriane Lioudis, MD. If you keep these five tips in mind, youâll stack the deck in your childâs favor for a healthier life.
1. For newborns, consider breastfeeding
While itâs a very personal decision (that isnât always possible), if you are able to exclusively breastfeed your child for at least six months, it may have benefits. Some research shows that breastfeeding your child might possibly reduce allergies, Dr. Lioudis says.
2. Promote regular hand washing
Eighty percent of infections are spread by touch. Teach your little one to take the time to wash their hands after sneezing, coughing and going to the bathroom. Washing hands with warm water and soap for at least 20 seconds can remove bacteria and viruses and can reduce the chance of lung infections by up to 45%.
âGet the flu shot for your child yearly, as well,â Dr. Lioudis says. This is particularly important for children with asthma and other chronic health conditions.
Also, if your family will be traveling internationally, itâs important to seek advice from your childâs healthcare provider about any needed vaccinations.
4. Make sleep a priority
To maximize immunity, children must get enough sleep.
Babies between 0 and 3 months need 14 to 17 hours of sleep. Those between 4 and 12 months need 12 to 16 hours of sleep.
Children between the ages of 1 and 2 need between 11 and 14 hours.
Kids between the ages of 3 and 5 should get from10 to 13 hours.
Children ages 6 to 12 should get between 9 and 12 hours.
Teens between the ages of 13 to 18 need 8 to 10 hours.
Not getting enough sleep limits the bodyâs ability to produce proteins called cytokines that help fight infection and reduce inflammation.
5. Encourage a healthy diet
A healthy diet is also important for your childâs immune system.
Dr. Lioudis recommends encouraging your child to âeat the rainbowâ when it comes to fruits and vegetables. A good selection of whole grains should be part of their diet as well. Keep processed foods to a minimum. Proper food choices can help ensure that your child gets enough vitamins â such as vitamin A and E. These vitamins are needed to maintain good health and a strong immune system.
You canât avoid all illness, but some kids need extra protection
âEven if you follow these tips, your child might still get between seven and 11 colds each year,â says Dr. Lioudis. She adds that you can expect each one to last up to two weeks.
Also, keep in mind that some things billed as common âremediesâ arenât effective in boosting immunity. For example, thereâs no definitive proof that large amounts of vitamin C or echinacea help prevent colds or shorten them, she says.
However, if your child has a compromised immune system, work closely with your pediatrician to find ways to improve his or her immunity. Each child needs a personalized approach because their individual immune system varies, Dr. Lioudis says.
âThereâs generally a different protocol with immunocompromised children. There are some vaccines we have to add in on top of what most children have, but itâs something that we must determine on a case-by-case basis.
A baby who can self-soothe will fall asleep on their own and play calmly without your intervention. Itâs a process, and a skill, that will help throughout their lives. Follow these tips to get started.
Itâs naptime â thank goodness. But your baby isnât having it. They cry. They fuss. So, you bounce them, rock them or even drive around town until they fall asleep.
Itâs the question on the top of your mind (and youâre not alone): When â and how â will my baby learn to self-soothe and calm down without so much effort?
Pediatrician Matthew Badgett, MD, answers this important question, and shares ways to help your baby learn to self-soothe.
Why is self-soothing important?
When your baby self-soothes, they can calm down on their own and they:
Fall asleep without your help.
Fall back asleep if they wake up in the middle of a nap or during the night.
Sit or play calmly by themselves.
But self-soothing isnât just for little ones. Itâs an important skill throughout your life. Whether you realize it or not, you use your own self-soothing methods to feel better when youâre stressed or anxious.
âSelf-soothing is a way of regulating your emotions,â Dr. Badgett explains. âBabies might suck their thumb or hold a stuffed animal. Adults might listen to music, take a walk or do yoga. The type of self-soothing you use changes throughout your life, but itâs a key part of your emotional health.â
When can my baby learn to self-soothe?
Every exhausted parent wants to know: When will my baby lie in their crib and drift off to sleep without my help? Or When can I put them in their bouncy seat for five minutes without screams of protest?
âIn general, donât try to teach your baby to self-soothe before they are 3 months old,â advises Dr. Badgett. âNewborns need you to help soothe them because they donât have the ability to control their emotions. Learning emotional control is a process that takes years, so donât expect too much from an infant or toddler.â
And self-soothing is a gradual process â not a switch you can flip. âSelf-soothing is really co-soothing because the parent is still involved,â says Dr. Badgett. âYour baby plays a more active role in soothing, but you set them up for success. You figure out how your baby can calm down with less of your help.â
Self-soothing tips and techniques
If your baby is past the newborn stage but still cries relentlessly when you put them down, there is hope. These tips can help your baby gain self-soothing skills:
1. Meet your babyâs needs first
Before you assume that your baby is just cranky, review their list of needs. Your baby wonât be able to self-soothe if:
Their diaper is wet or soiled.
Their clothing is too hot or too cold for the environment.
There are too many distractions in the room, like a noisy TV or other children.
After youâve ruled out those issues, move on to the next steps.
2. Set a schedule
Babies love routine. Try to put your baby to bed at the same time every day. Donât skip naps or keep your baby up late. A schedule keeps them from becoming overtired â thatâs when any hope of self-soothing goes out the window.
âIf your baby goes to bed at the same times each day, their body clock will get used to it,â Dr. Badgett notes. âThen, they will start to feel sleepy right at naptime or bedtime. Babies that are drowsy, but not exhausted, are better able to fall asleep on their own.â
3. Use white noise
The sound of a fan or a white noise machine can be music to your babyâs ears. âMany babies prefer a steady sound over a perfectly quiet room,â Dr. Badgett says. âIt helps drown out other sounds that could startle them, and it has a calming effect.â
Turn on the white noise machine when itâs bedtime. This can serve as a cue for your baby to learn when itâs time for dreamland.
4. Stay close without picking them up
After you place your baby in their crib or seat, donât leave right away.
âIf you give your baby some attention without holding them, they learn that being put down isnât a bad thing,â Dr. Badgett explains. âTalk to them, or gently put your hand on their belly. After a few minutes, calmly leave the room.â
5. Try a pacifier
Pacifiers are a useful tool for babies under the age of 1. But use caution. It can be hard to take the paci away from a baby who canât calm down without it.
âPacifiers help young babies learn to self-soothe before they learn other techniques,â Dr. Badgett says. âBut limit pacifier use to naptime and bedtime. Use them with other methods, like white noise and a consistent routine. That way, your baby wonât learn to rely on the pacifier alone.â
6. Wean them off feeding to sleep
Itâs normal for young babies to fall asleep at the bottle or breast. But as your baby grows, they need to learn other ways to drift off.
âDonât feed your older baby right at naptime with the sole purpose of getting them to sleep,â Dr. Badgett suggests. âThey might end up overeating or relying on the nipple even when theyâre already full.â
You can avoid the feed-to-sleep method if you:
Stop feeding if you see your baby getting sleepy.
Gently burp your baby to wake them up a little if they fell asleep feeding. Then, use the other self-soothing techniques to help them calm back down.
With a little persistence, perseverance and patience on your end, your little one could be self-soothing to sleep in no time.